Poor Mother and Father matching according to Sanatana Hindu Dharma

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The woman is the fire of the home. Vedic tradition states that the wife is not a "partner" in the modern contract sense. She is called Griha Lakshmi - Lakshmi of the house. She is Ardhangini - half of the husband's own being. At the vivaha, the sacred fire is installed, and she become the living fire around which the entire household rotates.

The man turns toward her day after day and his inner space is shaped by what he turns towards. The energy of the woman becomes the atmosphere of the mans' consciousness. Whatever Shakti she carries -sattvic or tamasic, dharmic or vasana driven - becomes the air he breathes and the direction of his decisions.

"Wrong woman" means misalignment of vasanas and karma. The same woman who is wrong for one man is the perfect dharma-patni for another man. The wrongness is alchemical, not moral. When a man installs a fire that does not match his own svadharma and his own inner space, the yagna of his household life becomes corrupted. Every offering - his tapas his ambitions, his wealth, his progeny is poured into the wrong fire.

What happens to him over time!

1. He loses in slow invisible degrees

2. His tapas dissipates

3. His ojas leaks

4. His viveka dulls

5. He becomes tamasic

6. His dharma collapses

The home without a dharmic wife is a house, not a home. (The man who partners wrong does not gain a companion - he slowly loses himself).

What happens to her?

1. She also degenerates. The alchemy cuts both ways.

2. Union is built on vasana, insecruity, on manipulation rather than dharma. HER LOWER NATURE IS FED, NOT HER SATTVA. She becomes more anxious, more controlling, more dissatisfied, more bitter.

3. Two sinking beings hold each other under water and call it love.

What happens to children? HEAVIEST CONSEQUENCE!

1. Mother is first Guru. The child absorbs mother's inner space from the womb itself. Samskaras imprinted become first words spoken.

2. A child born into a field of tamas, conflict, manipulation or spiritual confusion in-writes that as his or her baseline.

3. Fear, insecurity, confused dharma, broken sense of self - these pass through the mother's field into the next generation.

4. The children do not just witness the dysfunction, they become it and then they recreate it.